Dating Revived

Written By @3130beloved
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Easing back into DATINg is interesting.

It’s probably one of the hardest “things” to balance well living in Christ.

You’re slowly exposing your heart to someone, while simultaneously guarding your heart wisely because there’s NO safety in dating.

There’s a reason why dating isn’t in the Bible... it sucks IMO 

You’re not in a covenant with this person, and yet share deep conversations exposing our minds + grow emotionally and spiritually intimate through prayer and seeking the Lord together ... and at the end of the day, battling the fear of losing them because they are not promised to us or the fears of abandonment because we lose sight of our validation in Jesus.

We have to continuously remind ourselves, renew our minds, and choose the Lord as our security + our rock + and our stability; NOT a human being.

Instead of dreading the experience and running away because singleness is for me, much easier to walk in the spirit... I choose to see dating as a great opportunity to challenge my faith.

Taking Every Single thought captive and testing it because if I don’t, it will swallow me up which causes me to take it out on the other person.

This not only just hurts me, but now I’m hurting another person within the body of Christ.

I, myself, am the body too but there’s less control to pursue healing when you hurt another person.

Dating is an opportunity to fix my eyes on the Lord, WHILE caring for someone else.

I get to experience the floodgate of emotions, along with insecurities and fears while clinging to the Lord as He walks me through the waterfall of lies each day.

I am grateful to be rooted in my relationship with my Jesus more now than ever before so that my joy remains in him.

The person we date should reflect the grace of God CONSTANTLY and His character left & right to help us not fall into lies of inadequacy.

And vice versa.

We’re to help each other.

BUILD one another up.

I can confidently say NOW that No man can or will ever take the place of my first love again.

What a glorifying testimony to the Power of the Holy Spirit whom dwells within me & grew my heart to magnify the Lord through all things.

There’s no place I’d rather be, than here in HIS love.

@3130beloved

I’ve always hated these, “Bio” or “About me” sections— so awkward.

But… after living 25 years lost in my agnostic world chasing my own fame, glory, comfort and will I was brought to my end. After the death of my mom, ending the most manipulative & emotionally abusive relationship, a lifestyle of drug addiction, 2 abortions, and finding myself empty while standing in the middle of what the world says is “bliss”… I reached the end of myself and the beginning of seeing Jesus’ light beaming down on me.

I met His Holy Spirit for the first time at a Halloween rave called, “Day of the Dead.” To this day, I still think this is one of the darkest places to be on our planet. I raved and popped pills to numb my pain, to avoid my fears and to suppress my sadness. I was in the middle of bobbing my head and raising my arms to the electro house music blasting in my ears when images of skeletons came on the TV monitors and the weak spirit within me has a knee-jerk reaction to put my arms down. “Whoa! I don’t worship that!”, I thought. “Wait, what do I know about worship?” Now looking back, there God was! The beginning of my site for Him.

A year later, I followed my brother (his good looking friend) to church (@realityLA). I don’t remember the sermon but I heard God for the first time when worship began singing, “Spirit lead me where my trust is without borders. Let me walk upon the waters wherever you would call me.”

I LOST my mind.

It was an overwhelming & LAVISHINGGG upon me of, "Hi precious girl. I see you. I know you. I’ve been here. I know your pain. I know your loss. I know you are lost. I know you’re angry, specifically with me because you lost your mom and you think your life is unredeemable but my beloved, I’ve been coming after you because you are mine.” I cried the hardest I’d ever cried in my life because my entire being just knew… This. Is. God. This. Is. The. Master. Of. The. Universe— and He wants me? Broken, selfish, ugly me?

I soon followed this good looking friend of my brothers to a community group. There is where I met the love of God through His people as they accepted me, fed me, welcomed me, and took me in as family despite my lifestyle that rebelled against everything they believed. One year later, I said, “Fine. I’ll follow until you fail just like everything else has.” Well… He hasn’t failed nor broken any promise yet. ;) My choice to accept Jesus as my Lord, savior and new identity has brought me more freedom than I could have ever fathomed. I didn’t know what I was living for or aiming at but God truly lit up every shadow, broke down every wall, shattered every lie and came after me.

Salvation belongs to the Lord.

As the world kicks and screams trying to shout their way to justice, peace and unity on their own terms right now, may the roots of our identity in Christ grow deeper each day together as one body; as one family.

“Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked,
nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers;

but his delight is in the law of the Lord,
and on his law he meditates day and night.

He is like a tree planted by streams of water
that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither.
In all that he does, he prospers.

The wicked are not so,
but are like chaff that the wind drives away.

Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment,
nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous;
for the Lord knows the way of the righteous,
but the way of the wicked will perish.”

https://3130beloved.com
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