✨SINGLIN' AND MINGLIN'✨

Written By @3130beloved

Where my single ladies who LOVE JESUS at? Whooo! Easing back into dating after one FULL year committed to only loving and knowing my God, best BELIEVE I’ve never felt more sober minded in my life! I will not boast in anything, but I will boast in Jesus Christ and how He transforms hearts, minds and spirits when we seek Him with all we have. What a way to step back into the battle field after exercising those muscles of what it’s like to run into His arms, and only His arms, for an extended amount of time. I feel rooted in my rock + protected by my redeemer + empowered by my divine husband’s unconditional love for me KNOWING that I am worthy to be praised & to be pursued. If the Lord fulfills me then I only want a best friend to run alongside me towards Him everyday.


Despite what many have said about “high expectations”… I don’t think that’s possible if your eyes are fixed on the Lord. I don’t think I have to budge on my expectations for a Godly man. Not a perfect man but again, a godly man. No, I don't need any fulfillment from another human being because I. AM. FULL. However, this brother in Christ CAN add to my joy, add to my dreams and add to my intimacy with the Lord. I know now that no man can ever be the source of my joy though. That spot is taken & His portion is mine forever, amen?

I am not an option to “ponder or to ‘casually’ pursue”. Neither are you girl! LADIES… we need to STOP giving men so much credit for the BASICS! Compare them to JESUS, rather than a crummy ex- boyfriend who lacked respect for themselves and for you. Let your standards be righteous ones that God bestows upon them! Challenge them to be the men they were designed to be! Push them towards a godly community and mens group because men need men more than I can explain. Champion their strengths more than than weaknesses. Build them up as men of God rather than tugging on them to fulfill you only in ways God is meant to. Compare their actions to how Christ CHASED you down + came to know you through His loving sacrifice just to be with you + pursues you daily because He simply adores you. Let the Holy Spirit open your eyes to someone laid completely down at the foot of the cross ✝️ and not in La La Land twiddling his thumbs wondering why he isn't happy. Rebuke the fleshly “aesthetics” because we ALL know that can never be the foundation of a lasting and sanctifying marriage.

Men get hurt in relationships as well for wolves in sheeps clothing comes in many forms, but as emotional and hormonal beings genetically, women long for security. We may have our security in the Lord, but that doesn’t take off ANY responsibility off our brothers to carry + to bear the burden of + to take leadership in a relationship.

In my security with Christ, He gets to see the softness of my heart begin to flow out because I know I am safe. He provides me a space to grow as a Godly woman as I know His love for me is unconditional. I can live FROM freedom; not for it. I have fought for everything else in my entire life and frankly, I am tired. I will fight IN my relationship. I will fight FOR my marriage… but to fight or “try” just to have one is not in my DNA anymore. I’ve been treated well enough by Godly men in the past to know that I should never have to; meaning men ready to commit DO exist.


The father of my children, I am already writing letters to you, will show fruits of Jesus IMMEDIATELY. He will mirror an image of how the Lord speaks to me + how he treats me + unwavering in his adoration for how I am growing + and my spirit will recognize a sense of peace after knowing God's peace so well this past year.
May the spirit of the Lord guide us with wisdom as we sift through these BASICS.
💥Don't lose focus💥👆🏼👆🏼👆🏼

@3130beloved

I’ve always hated these, “Bio” or “About me” sections— so awkward.

But… after living 25 years lost in my agnostic world chasing my own fame, glory, comfort and will I was brought to my end. After the death of my mom, ending the most manipulative & emotionally abusive relationship, a lifestyle of drug addiction, 2 abortions, and finding myself empty while standing in the middle of what the world says is “bliss”… I reached the end of myself and the beginning of seeing Jesus’ light beaming down on me.

I met His Holy Spirit for the first time at a Halloween rave called, “Day of the Dead.” To this day, I still think this is one of the darkest places to be on our planet. I raved and popped pills to numb my pain, to avoid my fears and to suppress my sadness. I was in the middle of bobbing my head and raising my arms to the electro house music blasting in my ears when images of skeletons came on the TV monitors and the weak spirit within me has a knee-jerk reaction to put my arms down. “Whoa! I don’t worship that!”, I thought. “Wait, what do I know about worship?” Now looking back, there God was! The beginning of my site for Him.

A year later, I followed my brother (his good looking friend) to church (@realityLA). I don’t remember the sermon but I heard God for the first time when worship began singing, “Spirit lead me where my trust is without borders. Let me walk upon the waters wherever you would call me.”

I LOST my mind.

It was an overwhelming & LAVISHINGGG upon me of, "Hi precious girl. I see you. I know you. I’ve been here. I know your pain. I know your loss. I know you are lost. I know you’re angry, specifically with me because you lost your mom and you think your life is unredeemable but my beloved, I’ve been coming after you because you are mine.” I cried the hardest I’d ever cried in my life because my entire being just knew… This. Is. God. This. Is. The. Master. Of. The. Universe— and He wants me? Broken, selfish, ugly me?

I soon followed this good looking friend of my brothers to a community group. There is where I met the love of God through His people as they accepted me, fed me, welcomed me, and took me in as family despite my lifestyle that rebelled against everything they believed. One year later, I said, “Fine. I’ll follow until you fail just like everything else has.” Well… He hasn’t failed nor broken any promise yet. ;) My choice to accept Jesus as my Lord, savior and new identity has brought me more freedom than I could have ever fathomed. I didn’t know what I was living for or aiming at but God truly lit up every shadow, broke down every wall, shattered every lie and came after me.

Salvation belongs to the Lord.

As the world kicks and screams trying to shout their way to justice, peace and unity on their own terms right now, may the roots of our identity in Christ grow deeper each day together as one body; as one family.

“Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked,
nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers;

but his delight is in the law of the Lord,
and on his law he meditates day and night.

He is like a tree planted by streams of water
that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither.
In all that he does, he prospers.

The wicked are not so,
but are like chaff that the wind drives away.

Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment,
nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous;
for the Lord knows the way of the righteous,
but the way of the wicked will perish.”

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